love and marriage. . .

our wedding....awwww we're so cute!!!

we went to a wedding today. a beautiful, beautiful wedding! there is something about a good wedding that makes me want to talk about it for days. this was that kind of wedding. the colors were brown and pink, they were taken to the reception via trolley, the reception was at figlio towers on the plaza and to top it all off, the bride and groom were ridiculously in love. what more could a girl ask for, right? i mean the ceremony was even perfect. who has a good ceremony anymore? it was deeply meaningful and personal, funny even. it was actually the ceremony that brought a tear to my eye. the pastor said the most amazing thing--

he said, "up to this point everything has been about compatibility. it has all been about whether seth's strengths were enough or whether holly's weaknesses were too much. well, compatibility stops here--with this vow. from here on out it is commitment that drives this relationship. from here on out you no longer ask yourself, 'is he/she the one?'. you must now say to yourself, 'he/she is the one i chose and what now, does love require of me'."

wow!

it's amazing how this one thought ( getting it or not getting it) can make or break a marriage. i can honestly say that it almost broke mine. i went into marriage knowing that divorce was bad but thinking that if i wasn't treated right (aka exactly how i wanted) that God would understand. so therefore every bad fight we had i would break out the "d" word. . . pushing eric further and further away. it was amazing what happened to our marriage when we ushered the option of divorce out of our lives. when our mindset changed from compatibility to commitment we discovered a new level of intimacy. what heartache we would have been spared if someone had shared this practical thought at our wedding.

imagine if people actually had meaningful words said at their wedding ceremony. i wonder if more marriages would make it. . . it's funny what we, westerners do in the name of tradition. do you know how many weddings i've been to that i've wanted to scream at the officiant and tell him to say something that matters??? i just want to tell him to scrap the script and say something from his heart! instead of having people say important things at the most sacred ceremony most of us will ever take part in we just have some guy we don't know ramble on about things no one is listening to or understanding. why do we continue to bother with these empty traditions? if nothing important is said anyway, why don't we just skip that part and go straight to the reception?

funny, sometimes what we do without thinking leads to many things to think about. . .